Better to Break or Bend?

Read the following proverbs:

‘A living dog is better than a dead lion.’

‘Better a live beggar than a dead king.’

‘The wind does not break a tree that can bend.’

‘Better to die on your feet than to live on your knees.’

‘Be a free bird than a captive one waiting to be fed.’

‘If you are unbreakable, it doesn’t mean you have to bend.’

‘It is better to be killed than frightened to death.’     

 

Some convey a similar meaning (better to bend) while some others are contradictory (better to break).

Now, is it better to bend to circumstances OR better to break without giving in to any kind of situations?

 

Sometimes, we are caught in such moments where we may have to bend than risk breaking up… Sometimes, we allow ourselves to break than bend… We face and go through these happenings knowingly or unknowingly. However, the big question is, do we know when it is worth it?

 

As a parent, by breaking a rule, are we getting closer to our kids or making them move away from us? On the other hand, by bending down to their wishes, are we succumbing to the pressures of raising our kids in the manner which hampers their positive growth?

 

As a spouse, are we breaking our relationship by boosting our ego and not bending during an argument? Contrarily, are we allowing our spouse to dictate his/her terms and conditions on us by bending too much that it can destroy the relationship?

 

As a professional, are we blindly following what is told to us without questioning what, why and how of things…? Are we letting our higher-ups dominate us to the extent that we lose our individuality?

 

As a citizen, is it better that we bend to the unfair rules and corrupt systems or is it better we break down trying to change the system?

 

‘It was the last straw that broke the camel’s back.’

 

There is a limit to how much you can bend… there is a limit to how much you can break… more you bend, more is your chance for breaking… so, you need to rise soon after the moment you bend! And, if you break once, then it should take you minimal time and effort to gather and lift yourself again.

Learn about yourself because if you don’t, nobody will and nobody has to. You are the key. Each of us has our own boiling and melting points. Just know when you have reached there.

 

‘In matters of principle, stand like a rock; in matters of taste, swim with the current’ – Thomas Jefferson

Don’t bend, Don’t break, Don’t back down… possible?

(You can also find this  blog of mine on http://www.speakingtree.in/80xy68b9z8na8zwlx9wwuvu4i/blogs)

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Rich, poor, middle

Here, I present my original collection of light humour based on the ‘society’ realities. I believe any humour has a sardonic touch of reality and facts in it.

 

Poor – make ends meet to manage a daily bread

Rich – throw parties to feed the other rich

Middle class – eat on the run!

 

Poor – wish for a television set

Rich – show-off their television screens

Middle class – don’t have time to watch TV!

 

Poor – look at a airplane amazed

Rich – live in amazing planes

Middle class – wait for the delayed plane!

 

Poor – have a humble holiday at home

Rich – have an exotic vacation abroad

Middle class – Thank God, there is a Sunday!

 

Poor – family comes first

Rich – I come first

Middle class – Boss comes first!

 

Poor – bear the adjustment

Rich – barely do the adjustment

Middle class – adjust!

 

Poor – save every penny

Rich – have Swiss accounts

Middle class – pay taxes and EMIs!

 

Poor – enjoy the sun and breeze

Rich – enjoy with the heater and cooler

Middle class – am I bothered about the temperature?!!

 

Poor – love don’t cost a thing

Rich – love every ‘thing’

Middle class – love is God, God help me!

Hope you liked it!

(You can find this blog at my blog site on The Speaking Tree at http://www.speakingtree.in/public/80xy68b9z8na8zwlx9wwuvu4i/blogs)

Giving up – weakness or strength?

“Give up smoking…” I told my friend and he declared “Smoking is my weakness…!”

“Try to quit…” is all I said then.

“Quitting is for losers…” he uttered with a smile and I replied, “Listen friend, smoking will ruin your health… you have to get rid of this habit…”

“I have health insurance…” he proudly remarked. I shook my head and said, “Money will not replace your impending suffering, friend…”

“Don’t worry about me… and I will not call on you…” he threw it at me.

I finally commented “Come on dear… you think you are smoking it out but don’t you think the smoke is taking it out on you…?”

He didn’t stay but turned around to tell me, “I need to get out now and buy a new pack…”

I could only say, “I am not giving up on you, my dear friend…!”

Next day I met him again and helplessly he started talking, “See… even if I want to quit smoking, I can’t. It’s become an addiction… what to do now…?”

“You could try lessening this addiction slowly and get rid of it gradually say for instance, smoke just two cigarettes a day or you could…” I would have suggested more steps but he stopped me abruptly.

“Easy for you to say, isn’t it…?” he questioned me raising his eyebrows.

“Yes…” I agreed, “it’s easy for me to say and tough for you to act upon it… take it as a challenge…”

He stood quiet and so I added, “The test is to see how strong is your resolve compared to your weakness…”

“That is exactly why I don’t want to make any resolutions…” he finally spoke and after a pause continued “…because I will break it sooner or later…”

“Atleast make a resolve and then put efforts to make it work…” I encouraged him.

“…And look foolish when it doesn’t work… isn’t it…?” his tone became negative.

“My friend, please stay positive… otherwise you will end up dead in this vicious cycle… Believe in yourself… believe you have the power to give up this addiction… I will support you all the way… take the first step…” I said showing my confidence in him.

He looked around for several seconds and suddenly in a fully awakened state asked me, “Who are you by the way…?”

I anticipated this question and told him, “I am your conscience… I represent divinity… I will continue to be the voice you will always hear… whether you listen to me or not, whether you follow my guidance or not, whether you act upon my words or not, it is your choice…!”

Note 1 – ‘Giving up’ is not always a sign of weakness and ‘quitting’ doesn’t always indicate failure.

Note 2 – ‘Smoking is Injurious to Health’ – Don’t take it as only a Statutory Warning!

(Taken from my blog on The Speaking Tree – http://www.speakingtree.in/80xy68b9z8na8zwlx9wwuvu4i/blog/Giving-up-weakness-or-strength)

Dare to Draw the Line!

‘Only those who will risk going too far can possibly find out how far one can go’ – T. S. Eliot

“WOULD YOU BE BETTER SAFE THAN BE SORRY OR WOULD YOU BETTER TAKE YOUR CHANCES…?”

‘A ship is safe in harbour but that’s not what ships are made for…!’ – John A Shedd

Let’s straight away get into the points –

If we don’t want to be outside at public places during weekends because we fear bombs blasting or terrorist strikes, are we ensuring our safety or have we lost our freedom?

Just because I am a woman, do I have to rush back home when the clock shows 22.30 hours so that I reach the safe haven of my home?

Did you feel your parents overprotected you because of which you never really ventured ‘out in the world’ freely? By the way, are you overprotecting your kids in anyway that they feel ‘safety is the best policy’ in their life?

You might think gambling is a risk, adventure sports is a risk, travelling on a long distance flight (or shorter flight) is a risk… Now, think again… Do you wear your seatbelts while driving the car? Do you put on your helmet while riding your bike? Do you follow the traffic rules (not just signals) or is it a risk worth taking by breaking the rules?

I know the deal with non-vegetarian and vegetarian food & lifestyles… the question is would you risk your health by over-stretching your body & mind leading to stressful conditions, sheltering negative thoughts, giving in to vicious addictions & endlessly worrying about future?

We don’t have to choose all of the risky rides of the world and be in total awe while taking chances…

‘The safest risk is the one you didn’t take’ – Anonymous

‘Never be afraid to try something new. Remember amateurs built the ark; professionals built Titanic’ – Anonymous

We don’t have to choose all of the safety pins and be over-cautious each and every moment…

‘For safety is not a gadget but a state of mind’ – Eleanor Everet

‘You might as well fall flat on your face as lean over too far backward’ – James Thurber

Remember even safety pins can prick and sometimes taking risk is the safest choice you’ve got!

What we need to do is be in a positively active mode, raise awareness, get knowledgeable and learn to maintain composure within and on the outside. We must know when ‘taking risk’ is relevant and when ‘safety principles’ are applicable in our lives… We should learn to balance our lives by realizing when to switch on/off our attack mode and defend mode.

 There is a thin line between safety and risk and crossing it over can be a question of –

  • Life and Death
  • Profit and Loss
  • Success and Failure
  •  Love and Hate
  • Certainty and Unexpected                                                                                    
  • Comfort and Pain
  • Discovery and Mediocrity
  • Adventure and Boredom
  • Mistakes and Experience
  • Sense and Impulse
  • Wisdom and Foolishness
  • You and Me!

All we need to do is determine where we should draw that line…! That’s because what I perceive as to be a risky situation need not seem risky to you in anyways. Similarly, what you consider as a safe choices need not be the one I will choose necessarily. Ultimately, it is all about knowing Self and knowing WHERE and WHEN to DRAW the LINE!

“Two roads diverged in a wood, and I… I took the one less travelled by, and that has made all the difference.” – Robert Frost

(Original link to my blog – http://www.speakingtree.in/80xy68b9z8na8zwlx9wwuvu4i/blog/Dare-to-Draw-the-Line-atleast)

Get a ‘Break’

Everybody needs break… a break from the daily routines, a break from the demands of a relationship, a break from busy work schedules, a break from traffic blocks… it can go on, isn’t it? The key agenda here is ‘the need to break free…’ Everybody has a right to break free… we only need to determine ‘break free’ from what, whom, why, when, where and how. Yes, those 5W & 1 H questions has to be answered otherwise your breaking free isn’t going to yield the desired outcome. Of course, you need to decide on the outcome also… right? So, you need to know in advance whether your breaking free should bring you a fresh start, renewed & refreshed energy, new motivation to deal with the situations or simply cutting loose & coming back at it again & resume on-going efforts.

Should somebody ask “Define ‘break’ by the way”… This is a tricky one… Is it one minute, five minutes, one day, one week, two weeks or a month or maybe even a year? You will be surprised to know that we deal with ‘break’ throughout our life without realizing we are engaged in so many ‘breaking’ activities like –

We are either breaking the rules of an ineffective system OR unintentionally broken the law OR we are desperately trying to break the ice with certain individuals who are hard enough to fathom OR we make and break promises OR we have expectations that our favourite sportsperson/team will break the previous records OR it could be as simple as breaking open a tight jar in the kitchen.

We are waiting for a break-even point in our careers OR thinking hard upon the decision to break-up from our girl/boy friend OR we just look forward for the day to break and start off with a solid breakfast (You must be aware why breakfast is called so… after a good night’s sleep and when body is at rest, we break that fast with morning breakfast which is essential for the body and no one should miss ideally)

We are also scared if the other person initiates a break-up when we don’t want to and what if we break into tears then? What if we have no choice but to break another’s heart or our own? What if we were directly or indirectly involved in breaking apart another’s relationship? What if our intention was to break the bad news gently but our voice broke thinking about the possible breakdown that the other person may go through? What if we broke some intricate relationship code and it pierced through another’s heart like a broken arrow that’s still sharp enough to hurt?

Looks like we are either getting into a break or getting away from a break, isn’t it?  But, everybody is into it or out of it in different contexts like for instance –

A struggling film actor can say, “This movie will be my big break…”

A news channel anchor can say, “Sorry for interruption… there’s a breaking news…”

An ambitious tennis player can repeatedly say, “And, that’s the break point I needed…”

A miser worried about growing old can say, “There’s no way I will die broke…”

A calculative thief can say, “I will plan to break-in that house on the night after Christmas…”

A mischievous student may not say, “They made me break camp…”

A cautious property buyer may say, “Show me the break-up costs…”

When you go for lunch, its ‘lunch-break’

When you are not found at your work desk, it’s likely you are having, ‘coffee break’ or ‘loo break!’

When you are at the movie interval stage, its ‘movie break’

When you are watching a series of ads in the middle of your favorite TV program, its ‘commercial break’

THAT should be enough of breaks… this one’s a breaking blog with not so much of a breakthrough I guess!

Hope you got yourself a relaxing break…! Sometimes, there is a need to breakout from all the breaks of life… Get going…!

Message is Break free…!

Aside

Is Grass greener on the other side? Could be!

In life, we often move along with certain notions and pre-determined mindsets. Let me test some of them here with a slight touch of logical humour –

  1. We know life isn’t a bed of roses and we also know roses have thorns but anyone thought how’s it for the thorns? It could easily be a bed of roses for them!
  2. If you can’t convince them confuse them. But, if you can’t confuse them shouldn’t you confirm it once and for all? Do it.
  3. Early bird gets the worm but worms couldn’t be sleeping or is it that they got up first? So, getting up early in the morning is a good habit but not if you are a worm!
  4. Only common people can say ‘common sense isn’t common’ and they know it better, no doubt! So, could I proclaim “‘Common Sense’ belongs to the extraordinary…”? I think I can!
  5. They say ‘forget the past… live in the present’ & they also say ‘learn from your mistakes’ but how will I know what mistakes I made if I have to forget the past? It’s apt to say let’s not forget our mistakes.
  6. ‘Never say never’ – this could be the most unintelligent phrase in English… after all, you just had to say it twice to convey the meaning! Besides, ‘never’ is a negative word even if used in positive context.
  7. A bird in the hand is worth two in the bush but what’s wrong with having more than two especially when multitasking is the buzz word today? Just need to balance it right.
  8. Whoever said, ‘money can’t buy everything’ must have had lots of money or lots of everything! But it can also mean ‘everything isn’t for sale’ and ‘money is cheap’.
  9. ‘A rose by any other name would smell as sweet’ quoted William Shakespeare but interesting question is how do we know what we are referring to when we talk about the sweetness? And no way, names are just for namesake!
  10. Row, row, row your boat, gently down the stream. Merrily, merrily, merrily, merrily, life is but a dream. This is a popular nursery rhyme and the idea is to ‘row our life boats quietly and happily while living the dream!’ The question is figuring out whether it is really a stream, river or an ocean where we are rowing our boats.

‘Life is a mystery’ so, don’t worry if you get lost. We all are…!

Keep going though in search of your path and when you are sure you have found your path, keep rowing more!

SPACE – 2

Continuing into Space-2…

(Do refer my previous blog on Space – http://know2be.wordpress.com/2011/06/23/space/‎)

Remember the time when you spent considerable time wondering whether your car would fit into the available parking SPACE…? At that point of time, the space was more important to you than your car, isn’t it? It should be… after all, car is supposed to carry you… you hardly can carry your car wherever you go! 

Then what about that ‘to-let’ space a building owner advertises and which he/she would like someone to occupy? Isn’t the space that’s offered a valuable proposition then? And it only gets more value with the status of the location… is it in the city centre? Is it near the bus terminal? Is it the most happening location? So, the space you own fetches you revenues in such case.

Even human anatomy is such where the creator has given ample scope for space… observe yourself… isn’t there space between your eyes, ears, fingers, toes… don’t forget the space between your any two hair… Of course, in some persons, the space between their eyes could be more or less but important thing to note is ‘there is space’. Now, that’s just external body…! What about the bone structure, nerves, tissues, vital organs… are they all clamped up inside? No way, they are appropriately spaced… heart is in its own space while kidneys are located in its own significant space. In rare cases where ‘space’ application has somehow gone wrong, we have conjoint twins or a dislocation of certain body parts.

Just like how air occupies the space inside a balloon or water occupies the space of the container it’s poured in, haven’t we occupied earth’s space? We have constructed our bridges, flyovers, tunnels, subways and taken away the space or should I say, we have made ‘a space’ to suit our conveniences?   

Whatever it is, I would like to conclude by saying, ‘Space is a wonderful entity’.  We think – we create space, we need space, we own space, we allot space, we invade space or we occupy space… the truth is we are living and moving in SPACE.  

Thank you WordPress for this Space.

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