andModern times are all the more stressful to each one of us… doesn’t matter your age, gender, personality style, occupation or even your patience levels. In fact, stress exactly does that… tests your nerves!

It is not because we don’t have time that we get stressed, it is because we are stressed that we don’t find the time to do the things we need to, we want to!

So, when you are down with stress, trust yourself to give you the boost and uplift soon enough. If you wait long or think it will pass, you may run the risk of entering into a depressive state.

Here are five simple and instant self-motivators below:

1. Sing your favourite songs, or at least hum them. If your voice is not good enough, it is alright. Don’t judge your singing abilities. You are not singing to win any competition. You are singing to cheer up yourself.

2. You can do better by listening to your favourite songs. Store some good songs in your mobile and while you play them, make sure to sing along. Keep a check on your environment and see that you are not disturbing others in the process.

3. Look at funny side of yourself. It doesn’t imply that you need to act funny or keep laughing at yourself neither you should be alarmed if your sense of humour is low. All you need to do is smile at your silly follies and be at ease with yourself.

4. Observe a green tree, plant or a leaf. It could be a potted plant at the corner of your office or one outside the window or your computer wallpaper. Wherever it is, spot a green and lighten your mood. Green is a healing colour, so it has its psychological effects.

5. Make a ‘to do’ list for the evening/day/week/month. And keep a check on what you have achieved so far in the  day/week/month. This will help you to know where you stand now and put you back on the track to where you should be. Most of all, it puts you in the action mode.

If these are not applicable to you, think again… try it again. Still, if it’s not working, I am sure you will find your own instant motivators. Motivation is always available. Open yourself to it. Keep away the stressors. Positive thoughts lead to positive actions which in turn leads to positive outcomes.

(This blog is also on Speaking Tree, my blog site: http://www.speakingtree.in/public/shilpa.kamath/blog)

More Love Quotes – all original

  1. There are no time limits for love and yet there is a time to love.
  2. Don’t fall in love, let love fall into you.
  3. True love has nothing to do with Truth!
  4. Love is complicated simplicity!
  5. Spare me or spare love!
  6. Love is free and yet you have to set free your love.
  7. Whoever said ‘love is blind’ surely didn’t look into it clearly.
  8. If it is worth it, it is love. If it isn’t worth it, it is still love.
  9. Love has no language… love is the language!
  10. Love hurts and you thought it was a funny feeling!
  11. When in love it is only heart… never mind!
  12. Love is not a relationship… it is a means to a relationship.
  13. People don’t fall in love because love is blind, but because they start walking on air instead of solid ground!
  14. Don’t treat love as a game… if you keep scores, then play scrabble where every word and letter counts.
  15. Only cupid strikes… but… not love… ever!

The CAT

Compared to the dog lovers in this world, I know there are only as much takers for Cats. For me, I love cats and that doesn’t mean I hate dogs. Although I am neutral in my feelings towards dogs (excluding puppies… they are cute), I never ever can say that I have a neutral relationship towards cats. Besides, if you’ve got a cat, try being indifferent to them… they won’t let you! However, they have the birthright to be neutral towards you. And, you got to bear that kind of treatment.

Honestly, I have seen several kittens and cats in my neighborhood and other places. In fact, I had two cats in my home… and then four cats of my neighbors. I loved my tom cat… More specifically, I adore cats… these sweet creatures are simply irresistible. Without elaborating more, I would just like to mention the general tendencies of cats and this is based on my observations & being amongst them. So, let’s begin –

1)     You cannot place the cat under general category… coz each cat is unique & they have their own special and distinctive tendencies. They know that as well and you got to respect this principle.

2)     Like many people would agree, you don’t own the cat really. Yes, you never can be their master… you are their keeper. And, that in other words only means you are an employee who doesn’t get paid for your efforts in taking care of them. They think you owe it to them.

3)     When you love the cat, that love is unconditional for you. Not for the cat! They won’t promise you anything.

4)     You should respect the cat always. The minute you cross the line, you will immediately realise all this while, they pretended to respect you! And, that realisation my friend, hurts bad.

5)     The cat only has Rights… Most duties are delegated to you. And when I say Rights, they are –

  • Right to sleep anywhere and everywhere
  • Right to stare at anything and anyone for any length of time
  • Right to play with anything and everything including you
  • Right to disobey (and obey whenever they fancy)
  • Right to pretend
  • Right to ignore you
  • Right to feel highly intellectual (and mind you, most of them are!)
  • Right to love or hate milk
  • Right to know everything
  • Right to claim you and your home as theirs

6)     It doesn’t matter if you are tired, busy or occupied with something… when the cat demands attention, you better give it otherwise the next time, they won’t respond to your calls.

7)     Once in a while, the cat will give you undivided attention, care and total companionship… you will feel blessed! Actually, you should feel lucky… it means they have deeply thought about you sometime in the immediate past.   

8)     Never try to change the cat’s habits or routines. It won’t help you or the cat’s stubborn nature. It is much better to adapt your schedules and habits to theirs. This way, it is win-win situation.

9)     Admit it… the cat knows much more about what’s going around in your home and neighborhood. They also know more about you than you yourself. The plus point is they don’t care or boast of their knowledge.

10) Do you think cats are funny? Don’t! Cats believe in sophistication, mature thought processes and a certain level of insanity (which by the way you mistook as funny)

11) Never mind if the cat comes to you, sits on your lap, stares at you, cuddles you or allows you to cuddle… there is an intention and there is a motive. Yes, to love you also is a motive for them.

12) The litter box is yours… the cat only has a job to do in there.

13) Being lazy and sleeping throughout the day is only one of the cat’s activities. You have to think they put efforts into that.

14) For the cat, outside is a place for never ending curiosity. So, they keep exploring the unknown. Skip the panic if they don’t return for days. Besides, their curiosity levels need new dimensions.

15) The cat knows exactly what you speak to them, the tone in which you speak, your intentions & and your mood. Pity is you won’t know how they are taking it. Don’t be surprised if you get the silent treatment or they just keep staring at you.

16) Never fight with the cat or hit them. They may bear it but you risk losing your patience, energy and time. And, you must be aware that the cat has nine lives. The cat will not object to your show of little violence but beware… they are cats and they are naturally wild no matter how much you pet. You could easily find a dead rat or squirrel under your sofa or bed if not above it.

17)     Forget it… you will never win the staring contest with the cat. The cat is the master of staring game.

18)     If you know the cat’s weaknesses don’t ever use it against them. They will take it seriously and hate you for that. And trust me… you don’t want to be the object of the cat’s hatred. It would be much better if the cat ignored you.

19)     Do not curse or swear in front of the cat. No… please, don’t ask me why or why not… Just don’t do it ever.

20)     Of course, you can celebrate the cat’s birthday. However, the cat will not attach any importance to the occasion. The cat lives a year in every 24 hours. So, every moment is special occasion to the cat.

21)     Do not worry about the cat’s relations with other cats. They know the intricacies of relationships and its dimensions.

22)     The cat will have reservations about certain things. You got to know those things and value that. This is a sure way to win over the cat. Yes… they will observe your behavior towards it.

23)     The cat rarely gets sentimental. But, they will have mood swings and it can be based on anything and anyone such as the weather or the texture of your bedspread or your neighbor’s little girl or the maid or it maybe simply you and your voice!   

24)     The cat loves cleanliness and so don’t get duped with the mess made by the cat. It is just to test you and you pass the test when you clean the mess up. Simple, isn’t it?

25)     Love the cat with all your heart but set the cat free. If your love is true, the cat will come back to you. If it isn’t, hopefully the cat wouldn’t mind it.

Meaaoooww always!

Nobody is Ugly Betty

‘Beauty lies in the eyes of beholder and in the hands of surgeons!’ Today, when we say ‘A thing of beauty is joy forever’ most people especially women folk would literally want it to last forever. With all sorts of modern and cosmetic treatments available such as the Botox, liposuction, laser-surgery, implant-surgery, being beautiful on the outside is no longer restricted to age, stardom or considered exclusive. If you want it and you can afford it, it’s yours. Even side-effects are side-lined.

Is that why different varieties of facial creams, skin creams, beauty lotions, anti-ageing mix and such other types of product brands have been raiding the marketplace lately? Are they not aggressively advertised to woo the beauty conscious segments and keep them away from surgical beauty?

But then, what happens to the traditional beauty parlours and saloons…? What will beauticians do if people prefer to find their way to the surgical room rather than visit a parlour?

Not to worry actually… Just like supermarkets and hypermarkets cannot undermine the neighbourhood grocery stores, beauty parlours will remain as the ideal remedy for beauty solutions. And, of course surgeons don’t do routine jobs as plucking or shaping eye-brows or giving a facial massage.  

To get to the funny side of it, here are some statements that can straight away make its entry in a beautician’s work diary

  1. I don’t have to face job problems… my job is ‘Face problems!’
  2. They say ‘Beauty lies in the eyes of a beholder’ but sometimes I am forced to believe that ‘Beauty is lies’ or that ‘Beauty and the Beast are one & the same!’
  3. Never say beauty is skin deep otherwise no one would visit beauty parlours/saloons.
  4. My motto is ‘To beautify always’ but my secret motto is ‘Sparkle the mirrors with extra shine always’
  5. I could have tried being celebrity hair-stylist but then anybody can cut.
  6. Appearance is indeed deceptive.
  7. I am beautiful inside but my job is to make outside beautiful.
  8. A natural remedy for glowing skin is what I would look for but when it comes to people, they don’t want inner glow… they want instant glow… so, I rely on cosmetics.
  9. Today, I can’t say whether beauty spots are easier to find or spotting a beauty!!
  10. At least, people are honest in showing their real self while coming here.
  11. Being naturally good-looking – there isn’t such a thing these days…!!
  12. I will never call anybody ugly… the mirror does that job.
  13. Some people want to change their looks so badly that they end up looking bad but still like it only because it is different…!
  14. Sensitive skinned have to make-up their minds before they try make-up.
  15. Now the times are such that occasionally, I have to ask my customers as to which are their natural parts…!
  16. Age, wisdom and beauty – I can inter-relate all 3 in one go – As one’s age increases so does her/his wisdom to adopt modern methods to bring back beauty.

All of you who have read this… thanks… coz ‘you are Beautiful!!’ 🙂