andModern times are all the more stressful to each one of us… doesn’t matter your age, gender, personality style, occupation or even your patience levels. In fact, stress exactly does that… tests your nerves!

It is not because we don’t have time that we get stressed, it is because we are stressed that we don’t find the time to do the things we need to, we want to!

So, when you are down with stress, trust yourself to give you the boost and uplift soon enough. If you wait long or think it will pass, you may run the risk of entering into a depressive state.

Here are five simple and instant self-motivators below:

1. Sing your favourite songs, or at least hum them. If your voice is not good enough, it is alright. Don’t judge your singing abilities. You are not singing to win any competition. You are singing to cheer up yourself.

2. You can do better by listening to your favourite songs. Store some good songs in your mobile and while you play them, make sure to sing along. Keep a check on your environment and see that you are not disturbing others in the process.

3. Look at funny side of yourself. It doesn’t imply that you need to act funny or keep laughing at yourself neither you should be alarmed if your sense of humour is low. All you need to do is smile at your silly follies and be at ease with yourself.

4. Observe a green tree, plant or a leaf. It could be a potted plant at the corner of your office or one outside the window or your computer wallpaper. Wherever it is, spot a green and lighten your mood. Green is a healing colour, so it has its psychological effects.

5. Make a ‘to do’ list for the evening/day/week/month. And keep a check on what you have achieved so far in the  day/week/month. This will help you to know where you stand now and put you back on the track to where you should be. Most of all, it puts you in the action mode.

If these are not applicable to you, think again… try it again. Still, if it’s not working, I am sure you will find your own instant motivators. Motivation is always available. Open yourself to it. Keep away the stressors. Positive thoughts lead to positive actions which in turn leads to positive outcomes.

(This blog is also on Speaking Tree, my blog site: http://www.speakingtree.in/public/shilpa.kamath/blog)

‘Been there, Done that’

Have you observed kittens? Have you observed cats? It doesn’t matter if you are an animal lover or not… it is just about observations! Okay… now you don’t need to lose your cool on this… Let me come straight to the agenda.

The point is I have observed kittens and cats; the fact is I am a cat lover. I like the animal and their demeanor. Mind you… when I say demeanor, it can as well be put in bold and in upper case. Let me tell you why.

Cats by nature are complicated creatures. They act as if they own this world and the people in it but still don’t give a damn about it. It is not as if they are detached from everything or are unaware about what’s happening around them; it is just that they know ‘everything’ and still wouldn’t care less about nothing.

Honestly, it wouldn’t be fair to them if I generalize and tell such stuff about them. That’s because each cat is unique and show different tendencies and behavior.

When it comes to kittens, they are the ones bursting with so much enthusiasm, playfulness and activity. They are into it till they finally have to sleep on it and once up, they are onto it again. Everything and everyone is subject to their scrutiny and curiosity. And, when a senior cat notices the frivolous things these kittens do, the clear indication the cat gives is that of, “Been there, done that!”

Let’s get to the questions:

  1. Why does the cat give ‘been there, done that’ impression? Can it not have a zestful life like a kitten? Is it that now the cat finds it as wasteful and uninteresting? Is there an age and time limit to do the kitten stuff?
  2. Now, let’s relate the topic to us… What are our limitations? If one is young at heart, does it mean he/she can do any frivolous activity disregarding the age? For instance, can a married guy do the same things that he did while he was a bachelor?

I am just asking… There must be a time, place and age for everything, is it not?

The flip-side of the Cat Theory:

When we were young, we might have missed on some things or we didn’t have certain things… so, now we want to go through that experience or enjoy those things? Why? Coz it is accessible but what about the age? Would it be appropriate? Maybe not… so, what we do? We try to impose or get it through our children…We make them want the things that we had wanted without caring much if the kids need it or not. “I have not been there… and have not done that… So, you do it… and let me help you do it…” This is the message most adults give to the younger generation.

But the cat… the cat doesn’t do that… the kittens have all the freedom and the cat observes without interfering much!!

You can learn more about cats here. Please click on the link below.

https://know2be.wordpress.com/2011/06/16/the-cat/

Caught Sleeping at Your Desk…? Try this!

Have you ever felt so sleepy during your office hours that you had to sleep on your desk or fear that you might die sleepless?? Don’t worry… Just go ahead and sleep your way…. And, in case, you get caught sleeping, all you need to do is pick any of these lines and deliver it well. Let’s check out these lines… shall we?

10.”My doctor told me the prescription drugs can cause this to happen at odd hours but it is normal.”

9.”This is just a 15 minute power nap like they raved about in that time management course HR had sent me to. It leads to creativity, you know!!”

8. “Boss accused me of day dreaming… so, as a challenge, I thought let me try to sleep and actually dream of something wonderful.”

7. “I wasn’t sleeping, I was restating our mission statement and visualizing our company’s progress!”

6. “This is the new Yoga therapy… it is somewhat like meditation!”

5. “Was I sleeping? Really… can’t believe it! Didn’t realize when that happened… The last thing I remember is I was writing this email to one of our difficult clients and could be… that time…”

4. “Why did you interrupt me? I had almost figured out an excellent solution to our biggest problem. Now, I have to recall what that was!”

3. “Do not blame me… My cat taught me this trick…! So, you’ve got to blame the cat…! ”

2. “Someone from the 7th floor must have put a sleeping pill in my water bottle… you know how much those 7th floor executives hate us…!”

1. ” …..in God’s name, Amen.” (With God, it always works and God won’t mind surely!)

Sweet Dreams! 🙂

 

Better to Break or Bend?

Read the following proverbs:

‘A living dog is better than a dead lion.’

‘Better a live beggar than a dead king.’

‘The wind does not break a tree that can bend.’

‘Better to die on your feet than to live on your knees.’

‘Be a free bird than a captive one waiting to be fed.’

‘If you are unbreakable, it doesn’t mean you have to bend.’

‘It is better to be killed than frightened to death.’     

 

Some convey a similar meaning (better to bend) while some others are contradictory (better to break).

Now, is it better to bend to circumstances OR better to break without giving in to any kind of situations?

 

Sometimes, we are caught in such moments where we may have to bend than risk breaking up… Sometimes, we allow ourselves to break than bend… We face and go through these happenings knowingly or unknowingly. However, the big question is, do we know when it is worth it?

 

As a parent, by breaking a rule, are we getting closer to our kids or making them move away from us? On the other hand, by bending down to their wishes, are we succumbing to the pressures of raising our kids in the manner which hampers their positive growth?

 

As a spouse, are we breaking our relationship by boosting our ego and not bending during an argument? Contrarily, are we allowing our spouse to dictate his/her terms and conditions on us by bending too much that it can destroy the relationship?

 

As a professional, are we blindly following what is told to us without questioning what, why and how of things…? Are we letting our higher-ups dominate us to the extent that we lose our individuality?

 

As a citizen, is it better that we bend to the unfair rules and corrupt systems or is it better we break down trying to change the system?

 

‘It was the last straw that broke the camel’s back.’

 

There is a limit to how much you can bend… there is a limit to how much you can break… more you bend, more is your chance for breaking… so, you need to rise soon after the moment you bend! And, if you break once, then it should take you minimal time and effort to gather and lift yourself again.

Learn about yourself because if you don’t, nobody will and nobody has to. You are the key. Each of us has our own boiling and melting points. Just know when you have reached there.

 

‘In matters of principle, stand like a rock; in matters of taste, swim with the current’ – Thomas Jefferson

Don’t bend, Don’t break, Don’t back down… possible?

(You can also find this  blog of mine on http://www.speakingtree.in/80xy68b9z8na8zwlx9wwuvu4i/blogs)

Rich, poor, middle

Here, I present my original collection of light humour based on the ‘society’ realities. I believe any humour has a sardonic touch of reality and facts in it.

 

Poor – make ends meet to manage a daily bread

Rich – throw parties to feed the other rich

Middle class – eat on the run!

 

Poor – wish for a television set

Rich – show-off their television screens

Middle class – don’t have time to watch TV!

 

Poor – look at a airplane amazed

Rich – live in amazing planes

Middle class – wait for the delayed plane!

 

Poor – have a humble holiday at home

Rich – have an exotic vacation abroad

Middle class – Thank God, there is a Sunday!

 

Poor – family comes first

Rich – I come first

Middle class – Boss comes first!

 

Poor – bear the adjustment

Rich – barely do the adjustment

Middle class – adjust!

 

Poor – save every penny

Rich – have Swiss accounts

Middle class – pay taxes and EMIs!

 

Poor – enjoy the sun and breeze

Rich – enjoy with the heater and cooler

Middle class – am I bothered about the temperature?!!

 

Poor – love don’t cost a thing

Rich – love every ‘thing’

Middle class – love is God, God help me!

Hope you liked it!

(You can find this blog at my blog site on The Speaking Tree at http://www.speakingtree.in/public/80xy68b9z8na8zwlx9wwuvu4i/blogs)

Giving up – weakness or strength?

“Give up smoking…” I told my friend and he declared “Smoking is my weakness…!”

“Try to quit…” is all I said then.

“Quitting is for losers…” he uttered with a smile and I replied, “Listen friend, smoking will ruin your health… you have to get rid of this habit…”

“I have health insurance…” he proudly remarked. I shook my head and said, “Money will not replace your impending suffering, friend…”

“Don’t worry about me… and I will not call on you…” he threw it at me.

I finally commented “Come on dear… you think you are smoking it out but don’t you think the smoke is taking it out on you…?”

He didn’t stay but turned around to tell me, “I need to get out now and buy a new pack…”

I could only say, “I am not giving up on you, my dear friend…!”

Next day I met him again and helplessly he started talking, “See… even if I want to quit smoking, I can’t. It’s become an addiction… what to do now…?”

“You could try lessening this addiction slowly and get rid of it gradually say for instance, smoke just two cigarettes a day or you could…” I would have suggested more steps but he stopped me abruptly.

“Easy for you to say, isn’t it…?” he questioned me raising his eyebrows.

“Yes…” I agreed, “it’s easy for me to say and tough for you to act upon it… take it as a challenge…”

He stood quiet and so I added, “The test is to see how strong is your resolve compared to your weakness…”

“That is exactly why I don’t want to make any resolutions…” he finally spoke and after a pause continued “…because I will break it sooner or later…”

“Atleast make a resolve and then put efforts to make it work…” I encouraged him.

“…And look foolish when it doesn’t work… isn’t it…?” his tone became negative.

“My friend, please stay positive… otherwise you will end up dead in this vicious cycle… Believe in yourself… believe you have the power to give up this addiction… I will support you all the way… take the first step…” I said showing my confidence in him.

He looked around for several seconds and suddenly in a fully awakened state asked me, “Who are you by the way…?”

I anticipated this question and told him, “I am your conscience… I represent divinity… I will continue to be the voice you will always hear… whether you listen to me or not, whether you follow my guidance or not, whether you act upon my words or not, it is your choice…!”

Note 1 – ‘Giving up’ is not always a sign of weakness and ‘quitting’ doesn’t always indicate failure.

Note 2 – ‘Smoking is Injurious to Health’ – Don’t take it as only a Statutory Warning!

(Taken from my blog on The Speaking Tree – http://www.speakingtree.in/80xy68b9z8na8zwlx9wwuvu4i/blog/Giving-up-weakness-or-strength)

The CAT

Compared to the dog lovers in this world, I know there are only as much takers for Cats. For me, I love cats and that doesn’t mean I hate dogs. Although I am neutral in my feelings towards dogs (excluding puppies… they are cute), I never ever can say that I have a neutral relationship towards cats. Besides, if you’ve got a cat, try being indifferent to them… they won’t let you! However, they have the birthright to be neutral towards you. And, you got to bear that kind of treatment.

Honestly, I have seen several kittens and cats in my neighborhood and other places. In fact, I had two cats in my home… and then four cats of my neighbors. I loved my tom cat… More specifically, I adore cats… these sweet creatures are simply irresistible. Without elaborating more, I would just like to mention the general tendencies of cats and this is based on my observations & being amongst them. So, let’s begin –

1)     You cannot place the cat under general category… coz each cat is unique & they have their own special and distinctive tendencies. They know that as well and you got to respect this principle.

2)     Like many people would agree, you don’t own the cat really. Yes, you never can be their master… you are their keeper. And, that in other words only means you are an employee who doesn’t get paid for your efforts in taking care of them. They think you owe it to them.

3)     When you love the cat, that love is unconditional for you. Not for the cat! They won’t promise you anything.

4)     You should respect the cat always. The minute you cross the line, you will immediately realise all this while, they pretended to respect you! And, that realisation my friend, hurts bad.

5)     The cat only has Rights… Most duties are delegated to you. And when I say Rights, they are –

  • Right to sleep anywhere and everywhere
  • Right to stare at anything and anyone for any length of time
  • Right to play with anything and everything including you
  • Right to disobey (and obey whenever they fancy)
  • Right to pretend
  • Right to ignore you
  • Right to feel highly intellectual (and mind you, most of them are!)
  • Right to love or hate milk
  • Right to know everything
  • Right to claim you and your home as theirs

6)     It doesn’t matter if you are tired, busy or occupied with something… when the cat demands attention, you better give it otherwise the next time, they won’t respond to your calls.

7)     Once in a while, the cat will give you undivided attention, care and total companionship… you will feel blessed! Actually, you should feel lucky… it means they have deeply thought about you sometime in the immediate past.   

8)     Never try to change the cat’s habits or routines. It won’t help you or the cat’s stubborn nature. It is much better to adapt your schedules and habits to theirs. This way, it is win-win situation.

9)     Admit it… the cat knows much more about what’s going around in your home and neighborhood. They also know more about you than you yourself. The plus point is they don’t care or boast of their knowledge.

10) Do you think cats are funny? Don’t! Cats believe in sophistication, mature thought processes and a certain level of insanity (which by the way you mistook as funny)

11) Never mind if the cat comes to you, sits on your lap, stares at you, cuddles you or allows you to cuddle… there is an intention and there is a motive. Yes, to love you also is a motive for them.

12) The litter box is yours… the cat only has a job to do in there.

13) Being lazy and sleeping throughout the day is only one of the cat’s activities. You have to think they put efforts into that.

14) For the cat, outside is a place for never ending curiosity. So, they keep exploring the unknown. Skip the panic if they don’t return for days. Besides, their curiosity levels need new dimensions.

15) The cat knows exactly what you speak to them, the tone in which you speak, your intentions & and your mood. Pity is you won’t know how they are taking it. Don’t be surprised if you get the silent treatment or they just keep staring at you.

16) Never fight with the cat or hit them. They may bear it but you risk losing your patience, energy and time. And, you must be aware that the cat has nine lives. The cat will not object to your show of little violence but beware… they are cats and they are naturally wild no matter how much you pet. You could easily find a dead rat or squirrel under your sofa or bed if not above it.

17)     Forget it… you will never win the staring contest with the cat. The cat is the master of staring game.

18)     If you know the cat’s weaknesses don’t ever use it against them. They will take it seriously and hate you for that. And trust me… you don’t want to be the object of the cat’s hatred. It would be much better if the cat ignored you.

19)     Do not curse or swear in front of the cat. No… please, don’t ask me why or why not… Just don’t do it ever.

20)     Of course, you can celebrate the cat’s birthday. However, the cat will not attach any importance to the occasion. The cat lives a year in every 24 hours. So, every moment is special occasion to the cat.

21)     Do not worry about the cat’s relations with other cats. They know the intricacies of relationships and its dimensions.

22)     The cat will have reservations about certain things. You got to know those things and value that. This is a sure way to win over the cat. Yes… they will observe your behavior towards it.

23)     The cat rarely gets sentimental. But, they will have mood swings and it can be based on anything and anyone such as the weather or the texture of your bedspread or your neighbor’s little girl or the maid or it maybe simply you and your voice!   

24)     The cat loves cleanliness and so don’t get duped with the mess made by the cat. It is just to test you and you pass the test when you clean the mess up. Simple, isn’t it?

25)     Love the cat with all your heart but set the cat free. If your love is true, the cat will come back to you. If it isn’t, hopefully the cat wouldn’t mind it.

Meaaoooww always!

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