‘Been there, Done that’

Have you observed kittens? Have you observed cats? It doesn’t matter if you are an animal lover or not… it is just about observations! Okay… now you don’t need to lose your cool on this… Let me come straight to the agenda.

The point is I have observed kittens and cats; the fact is I am a cat lover. I like the animal and their demeanor. Mind you… when I say demeanor, it can as well be put in bold and in upper case. Let me tell you why.

Cats by nature are complicated creatures. They act as if they own this world and the people in it but still don’t give a damn about it. It is not as if they are detached from everything or are unaware about what’s happening around them; it is just that they know ‘everything’ and still wouldn’t care less about nothing.

Honestly, it wouldn’t be fair to them if I generalize and tell such stuff about them. That’s because each cat is unique and show different tendencies and behavior.

When it comes to kittens, they are the ones bursting with so much enthusiasm, playfulness and activity. They are into it till they finally have to sleep on it and once up, they are onto it again. Everything and everyone is subject to their scrutiny and curiosity. And, when a senior cat notices the frivolous things these kittens do, the clear indication the cat gives is that of, “Been there, done that!”

Let’s get to the questions:

  1. Why does the cat give ‘been there, done that’ impression? Can it not have a zestful life like a kitten? Is it that now the cat finds it as wasteful and uninteresting? Is there an age and time limit to do the kitten stuff?
  2. Now, let’s relate the topic to us… What are our limitations? If one is young at heart, does it mean he/she can do any frivolous activity disregarding the age? For instance, can a married guy do the same things that he did while he was a bachelor?

I am just asking… There must be a time, place and age for everything, is it not?

The flip-side of the Cat Theory:

When we were young, we might have missed on some things or we didn’t have certain things… so, now we want to go through that experience or enjoy those things? Why? Coz it is accessible but what about the age? Would it be appropriate? Maybe not… so, what we do? We try to impose or get it through our children…We make them want the things that we had wanted without caring much if the kids need it or not. “I have not been there… and have not done that… So, you do it… and let me help you do it…” This is the message most adults give to the younger generation.

But the cat… the cat doesn’t do that… the kittens have all the freedom and the cat observes without interfering much!!

You can learn more about cats here. Please click on the link below.

https://know2be.wordpress.com/2011/06/16/the-cat/

Caught Sleeping at Your Desk…? Try this!

Have you ever felt so sleepy during your office hours that you had to sleep on your desk or fear that you might die sleepless?? Don’t worry… Just go ahead and sleep your way…. And, in case, you get caught sleeping, all you need to do is pick any of these lines and deliver it well. Let’s check out these lines… shall we?

10.”My doctor told me the prescription drugs can cause this to happen at odd hours but it is normal.”

9.”This is just a 15 minute power nap like they raved about in that time management course HR had sent me to. It leads to creativity, you know!!”

8. “Boss accused me of day dreaming… so, as a challenge, I thought let me try to sleep and actually dream of something wonderful.”

7. “I wasn’t sleeping, I was restating our mission statement and visualizing our company’s progress!”

6. “This is the new Yoga therapy… it is somewhat like meditation!”

5. “Was I sleeping? Really… can’t believe it! Didn’t realize when that happened… The last thing I remember is I was writing this email to one of our difficult clients and could be… that time…”

4. “Why did you interrupt me? I had almost figured out an excellent solution to our biggest problem. Now, I have to recall what that was!”

3. “Do not blame me… My cat taught me this trick…! So, you’ve got to blame the cat…! ”

2. “Someone from the 7th floor must have put a sleeping pill in my water bottle… you know how much those 7th floor executives hate us…!”

1. ” …..in God’s name, Amen.” (With God, it always works and God won’t mind surely!)

Sweet Dreams! 🙂

 

Get a ‘Break’

Everybody needs break… a break from the daily routines, a break from the demands of a relationship, a break from busy work schedules, a break from traffic blocks… it can go on, isn’t it? The key agenda here is ‘the need to break free…’ Everybody has a right to break free… we only need to determine ‘break free’ from what, whom, why, when, where and how. Yes, those 5W & 1 H questions has to be answered otherwise your breaking free isn’t going to yield the desired outcome. Of course, you need to decide on the outcome also… right? So, you need to know in advance whether your breaking free should bring you a fresh start, renewed & refreshed energy, new motivation to deal with the situations or simply cutting loose & coming back at it again & resume on-going efforts.

Should somebody ask “Define ‘break’ by the way”… This is a tricky one… Is it one minute, five minutes, one day, one week, two weeks or a month or maybe even a year? You will be surprised to know that we deal with ‘break’ throughout our life without realizing we are engaged in so many ‘breaking’ activities like –

We are either breaking the rules of an ineffective system OR unintentionally broken the law OR we are desperately trying to break the ice with certain individuals who are hard enough to fathom OR we make and break promises OR we have expectations that our favourite sportsperson/team will break the previous records OR it could be as simple as breaking open a tight jar in the kitchen.

We are waiting for a break-even point in our careers OR thinking hard upon the decision to break-up from our girl/boy friend OR we just look forward for the day to break and start off with a solid breakfast (You must be aware why breakfast is called so… after a good night’s sleep and when body is at rest, we break that fast with morning breakfast which is essential for the body and no one should miss ideally)

We are also scared if the other person initiates a break-up when we don’t want to and what if we break into tears then? What if we have no choice but to break another’s heart or our own? What if we were directly or indirectly involved in breaking apart another’s relationship? What if our intention was to break the bad news gently but our voice broke thinking about the possible breakdown that the other person may go through? What if we broke some intricate relationship code and it pierced through another’s heart like a broken arrow that’s still sharp enough to hurt?

Looks like we are either getting into a break or getting away from a break, isn’t it?  But, everybody is into it or out of it in different contexts like for instance –

A struggling film actor can say, “This movie will be my big break…”

A news channel anchor can say, “Sorry for interruption… there’s a breaking news…”

An ambitious tennis player can repeatedly say, “And, that’s the break point I needed…”

A miser worried about growing old can say, “There’s no way I will die broke…”

A calculative thief can say, “I will plan to break-in that house on the night after Christmas…”

A mischievous student may not say, “They made me break camp…”

A cautious property buyer may say, “Show me the break-up costs…”

When you go for lunch, its ‘lunch-break’

When you are not found at your work desk, it’s likely you are having, ‘coffee break’ or ‘loo break!’

When you are at the movie interval stage, its ‘movie break’

When you are watching a series of ads in the middle of your favorite TV program, its ‘commercial break’

THAT should be enough of breaks… this one’s a breaking blog with not so much of a breakthrough I guess!

Hope you got yourself a relaxing break…! Sometimes, there is a need to breakout from all the breaks of life… Get going…!

Message is Break free…!

Aside

The CAT

Compared to the dog lovers in this world, I know there are only as much takers for Cats. For me, I love cats and that doesn’t mean I hate dogs. Although I am neutral in my feelings towards dogs (excluding puppies… they are cute), I never ever can say that I have a neutral relationship towards cats. Besides, if you’ve got a cat, try being indifferent to them… they won’t let you! However, they have the birthright to be neutral towards you. And, you got to bear that kind of treatment.

Honestly, I have seen several kittens and cats in my neighborhood and other places. In fact, I had two cats in my home… and then four cats of my neighbors. I loved my tom cat… More specifically, I adore cats… these sweet creatures are simply irresistible. Without elaborating more, I would just like to mention the general tendencies of cats and this is based on my observations & being amongst them. So, let’s begin –

1)     You cannot place the cat under general category… coz each cat is unique & they have their own special and distinctive tendencies. They know that as well and you got to respect this principle.

2)     Like many people would agree, you don’t own the cat really. Yes, you never can be their master… you are their keeper. And, that in other words only means you are an employee who doesn’t get paid for your efforts in taking care of them. They think you owe it to them.

3)     When you love the cat, that love is unconditional for you. Not for the cat! They won’t promise you anything.

4)     You should respect the cat always. The minute you cross the line, you will immediately realise all this while, they pretended to respect you! And, that realisation my friend, hurts bad.

5)     The cat only has Rights… Most duties are delegated to you. And when I say Rights, they are –

  • Right to sleep anywhere and everywhere
  • Right to stare at anything and anyone for any length of time
  • Right to play with anything and everything including you
  • Right to disobey (and obey whenever they fancy)
  • Right to pretend
  • Right to ignore you
  • Right to feel highly intellectual (and mind you, most of them are!)
  • Right to love or hate milk
  • Right to know everything
  • Right to claim you and your home as theirs

6)     It doesn’t matter if you are tired, busy or occupied with something… when the cat demands attention, you better give it otherwise the next time, they won’t respond to your calls.

7)     Once in a while, the cat will give you undivided attention, care and total companionship… you will feel blessed! Actually, you should feel lucky… it means they have deeply thought about you sometime in the immediate past.   

8)     Never try to change the cat’s habits or routines. It won’t help you or the cat’s stubborn nature. It is much better to adapt your schedules and habits to theirs. This way, it is win-win situation.

9)     Admit it… the cat knows much more about what’s going around in your home and neighborhood. They also know more about you than you yourself. The plus point is they don’t care or boast of their knowledge.

10) Do you think cats are funny? Don’t! Cats believe in sophistication, mature thought processes and a certain level of insanity (which by the way you mistook as funny)

11) Never mind if the cat comes to you, sits on your lap, stares at you, cuddles you or allows you to cuddle… there is an intention and there is a motive. Yes, to love you also is a motive for them.

12) The litter box is yours… the cat only has a job to do in there.

13) Being lazy and sleeping throughout the day is only one of the cat’s activities. You have to think they put efforts into that.

14) For the cat, outside is a place for never ending curiosity. So, they keep exploring the unknown. Skip the panic if they don’t return for days. Besides, their curiosity levels need new dimensions.

15) The cat knows exactly what you speak to them, the tone in which you speak, your intentions & and your mood. Pity is you won’t know how they are taking it. Don’t be surprised if you get the silent treatment or they just keep staring at you.

16) Never fight with the cat or hit them. They may bear it but you risk losing your patience, energy and time. And, you must be aware that the cat has nine lives. The cat will not object to your show of little violence but beware… they are cats and they are naturally wild no matter how much you pet. You could easily find a dead rat or squirrel under your sofa or bed if not above it.

17)     Forget it… you will never win the staring contest with the cat. The cat is the master of staring game.

18)     If you know the cat’s weaknesses don’t ever use it against them. They will take it seriously and hate you for that. And trust me… you don’t want to be the object of the cat’s hatred. It would be much better if the cat ignored you.

19)     Do not curse or swear in front of the cat. No… please, don’t ask me why or why not… Just don’t do it ever.

20)     Of course, you can celebrate the cat’s birthday. However, the cat will not attach any importance to the occasion. The cat lives a year in every 24 hours. So, every moment is special occasion to the cat.

21)     Do not worry about the cat’s relations with other cats. They know the intricacies of relationships and its dimensions.

22)     The cat will have reservations about certain things. You got to know those things and value that. This is a sure way to win over the cat. Yes… they will observe your behavior towards it.

23)     The cat rarely gets sentimental. But, they will have mood swings and it can be based on anything and anyone such as the weather or the texture of your bedspread or your neighbor’s little girl or the maid or it maybe simply you and your voice!   

24)     The cat loves cleanliness and so don’t get duped with the mess made by the cat. It is just to test you and you pass the test when you clean the mess up. Simple, isn’t it?

25)     Love the cat with all your heart but set the cat free. If your love is true, the cat will come back to you. If it isn’t, hopefully the cat wouldn’t mind it.

Meaaoooww always!

Is it really easy to step into another’s shoes?

Role-playing as a game should be easy… but, have you actually thought how you would act or react if you put yourself in the place of your spouse, boss, teenaged daughter, mother, best-friend, worst enemy, neighbour anybody for that matter?

Is it really easy to step into another’s shoes and face the situations? Point to ponder, isn’t it?

Even if you were to get into the position of another person, you would have done what you were supposed to do or what you think to be the right approach for you… And, that is because you are ‘YOU’, not the other person…!

You cannot go through what the other person is going through… you cannot know the depths of another’s emotions, strength, dilemmas, risk-taking abilities, thought-processes, so on. 

What you see as challenge maybe a totally tricky situation for another… What you see is easy maybe difficult for another… What the other person views as the correct option maybe an impractical way for you…

The bottom line is when you need to step into another person’s shoes you actually have to be that person… And, to successfully do that, you have to know the other person and understand him/her completely. But, is it always possible that you know or understand the other person? Today, when most of our interactions with other people happen over telephone, e-mails, chat rooms, how will you step into another’s shoes when you have not even seen them??

So, atleast being in our own shoes, let’s make an attempt to comprehend others.