andModern times are all the more stressful to each one of us… doesn’t matter your age, gender, personality style, occupation or even your patience levels. In fact, stress exactly does that… tests your nerves!

It is not because we don’t have time that we get stressed, it is because we are stressed that we don’t find the time to do the things we need to, we want to!

So, when you are down with stress, trust yourself to give you the boost and uplift soon enough. If you wait long or think it will pass, you may run the risk of entering into a depressive state.

Here are five simple and instant self-motivators below:

1. Sing your favourite songs, or at least hum them. If your voice is not good enough, it is alright. Don’t judge your singing abilities. You are not singing to win any competition. You are singing to cheer up yourself.

2. You can do better by listening to your favourite songs. Store some good songs in your mobile and while you play them, make sure to sing along. Keep a check on your environment and see that you are not disturbing others in the process.

3. Look at funny side of yourself. It doesn’t imply that you need to act funny or keep laughing at yourself neither you should be alarmed if your sense of humour is low. All you need to do is smile at your silly follies and be at ease with yourself.

4. Observe a green tree, plant or a leaf. It could be a potted plant at the corner of your office or one outside the window or your computer wallpaper. Wherever it is, spot a green and lighten your mood. Green is a healing colour, so it has its psychological effects.

5. Make a ‘to do’ list for the evening/day/week/month. And keep a check on what you have achieved so far in the  day/week/month. This will help you to know where you stand now and put you back on the track to where you should be. Most of all, it puts you in the action mode.

If these are not applicable to you, think again… try it again. Still, if it’s not working, I am sure you will find your own instant motivators. Motivation is always available. Open yourself to it. Keep away the stressors. Positive thoughts lead to positive actions which in turn leads to positive outcomes.

(This blog is also on Speaking Tree, my blog site: http://www.speakingtree.in/public/shilpa.kamath/blog)

Manimals

Evolution may have taken its own course and made a man out of a chimpanzee…

And looking at the present situation, is it that man is now evolving into a machine (think – robots, clones, technological/digital presence of humans)? However, it doesn’t matter how far technology can go, how quick communications reach, how brilliant are the ideas that generate in the fascinating human mind… will it erase out our origin? Will it remove the basic instincts? Can the fundamental roots be eliminated?

 

Based on Abraham Maslow’s hierarchical needs theory which again is subject to criticisms, is it that humans are superior because they don’t just have basic needs like the animals? The ‘Man’ is much more curious, imaginative, inventive, adaptive, communicative, logical, creative… that he has the world at his feet. Courtesy to the creation of his brains and his right to question and his ability to get answers… Wow!

 

Sadly, the ‘Man’ is also greedier, selfish, over-powering, dominant, reckless, manipulative, unpredictable… that he has filled the world with sins, crimes, poverty, fear, agony, depression that negativity could be a synonym for mankind. Being wild in anger and being spiteful is not what animals are… Animals are born wild… We are supposed to be civilized… Animals get along with the nature and obey nature’s rules… We are supposed to protect nature but we create our own rules and disobey them as well… Animals are animals but Man – Can he become an animal again? Can he remain totally wild and be unaware about the consequences of his misdeeds? Can he be what he’s supposed to be… a human being… an emotional, intelligent and spiritual being?? It is said being born as a human is considered as a privilege and the ultimate level in the cycle of life… But, can the human rise above this level? If yes, to what extent… and to reach where…?

The man has discovered the ‘God particle’ and believes to find out the secrets of the universe and how it came into existence. The man might believe ‘God’ is simply imaginary.

If ‘we’ the civilized beings are superior enough to run this world and the universe, why is it so difficult to:

  • forgive that guy/girl who broke your heart
  • let go of the manipulations, fraud and evil
  • empathize with your neighbor’s loss
  • sort out the differences with your spouse

We claim to have conquered this world and the universe but we have not yet conquered self! We are still MANIMALS!

‘Been there, Done that’

Have you observed kittens? Have you observed cats? It doesn’t matter if you are an animal lover or not… it is just about observations! Okay… now you don’t need to lose your cool on this… Let me come straight to the agenda.

The point is I have observed kittens and cats; the fact is I am a cat lover. I like the animal and their demeanor. Mind you… when I say demeanor, it can as well be put in bold and in upper case. Let me tell you why.

Cats by nature are complicated creatures. They act as if they own this world and the people in it but still don’t give a damn about it. It is not as if they are detached from everything or are unaware about what’s happening around them; it is just that they know ‘everything’ and still wouldn’t care less about nothing.

Honestly, it wouldn’t be fair to them if I generalize and tell such stuff about them. That’s because each cat is unique and show different tendencies and behavior.

When it comes to kittens, they are the ones bursting with so much enthusiasm, playfulness and activity. They are into it till they finally have to sleep on it and once up, they are onto it again. Everything and everyone is subject to their scrutiny and curiosity. And, when a senior cat notices the frivolous things these kittens do, the clear indication the cat gives is that of, “Been there, done that!”

Let’s get to the questions:

  1. Why does the cat give ‘been there, done that’ impression? Can it not have a zestful life like a kitten? Is it that now the cat finds it as wasteful and uninteresting? Is there an age and time limit to do the kitten stuff?
  2. Now, let’s relate the topic to us… What are our limitations? If one is young at heart, does it mean he/she can do any frivolous activity disregarding the age? For instance, can a married guy do the same things that he did while he was a bachelor?

I am just asking… There must be a time, place and age for everything, is it not?

The flip-side of the Cat Theory:

When we were young, we might have missed on some things or we didn’t have certain things… so, now we want to go through that experience or enjoy those things? Why? Coz it is accessible but what about the age? Would it be appropriate? Maybe not… so, what we do? We try to impose or get it through our children…We make them want the things that we had wanted without caring much if the kids need it or not. “I have not been there… and have not done that… So, you do it… and let me help you do it…” This is the message most adults give to the younger generation.

But the cat… the cat doesn’t do that… the kittens have all the freedom and the cat observes without interfering much!!

You can learn more about cats here. Please click on the link below.

https://know2be.wordpress.com/2011/06/16/the-cat/

Better to Break or Bend?

Read the following proverbs:

‘A living dog is better than a dead lion.’

‘Better a live beggar than a dead king.’

‘The wind does not break a tree that can bend.’

‘Better to die on your feet than to live on your knees.’

‘Be a free bird than a captive one waiting to be fed.’

‘If you are unbreakable, it doesn’t mean you have to bend.’

‘It is better to be killed than frightened to death.’     

 

Some convey a similar meaning (better to bend) while some others are contradictory (better to break).

Now, is it better to bend to circumstances OR better to break without giving in to any kind of situations?

 

Sometimes, we are caught in such moments where we may have to bend than risk breaking up… Sometimes, we allow ourselves to break than bend… We face and go through these happenings knowingly or unknowingly. However, the big question is, do we know when it is worth it?

 

As a parent, by breaking a rule, are we getting closer to our kids or making them move away from us? On the other hand, by bending down to their wishes, are we succumbing to the pressures of raising our kids in the manner which hampers their positive growth?

 

As a spouse, are we breaking our relationship by boosting our ego and not bending during an argument? Contrarily, are we allowing our spouse to dictate his/her terms and conditions on us by bending too much that it can destroy the relationship?

 

As a professional, are we blindly following what is told to us without questioning what, why and how of things…? Are we letting our higher-ups dominate us to the extent that we lose our individuality?

 

As a citizen, is it better that we bend to the unfair rules and corrupt systems or is it better we break down trying to change the system?

 

‘It was the last straw that broke the camel’s back.’

 

There is a limit to how much you can bend… there is a limit to how much you can break… more you bend, more is your chance for breaking… so, you need to rise soon after the moment you bend! And, if you break once, then it should take you minimal time and effort to gather and lift yourself again.

Learn about yourself because if you don’t, nobody will and nobody has to. You are the key. Each of us has our own boiling and melting points. Just know when you have reached there.

 

‘In matters of principle, stand like a rock; in matters of taste, swim with the current’ – Thomas Jefferson

Don’t bend, Don’t break, Don’t back down… possible?

(You can also find this  blog of mine on http://www.speakingtree.in/80xy68b9z8na8zwlx9wwuvu4i/blogs)

Rich, poor, middle

Here, I present my original collection of light humour based on the ‘society’ realities. I believe any humour has a sardonic touch of reality and facts in it.

 

Poor – make ends meet to manage a daily bread

Rich – throw parties to feed the other rich

Middle class – eat on the run!

 

Poor – wish for a television set

Rich – show-off their television screens

Middle class – don’t have time to watch TV!

 

Poor – look at a airplane amazed

Rich – live in amazing planes

Middle class – wait for the delayed plane!

 

Poor – have a humble holiday at home

Rich – have an exotic vacation abroad

Middle class – Thank God, there is a Sunday!

 

Poor – family comes first

Rich – I come first

Middle class – Boss comes first!

 

Poor – bear the adjustment

Rich – barely do the adjustment

Middle class – adjust!

 

Poor – save every penny

Rich – have Swiss accounts

Middle class – pay taxes and EMIs!

 

Poor – enjoy the sun and breeze

Rich – enjoy with the heater and cooler

Middle class – am I bothered about the temperature?!!

 

Poor – love don’t cost a thing

Rich – love every ‘thing’

Middle class – love is God, God help me!

Hope you liked it!

(You can find this blog at my blog site on The Speaking Tree at http://www.speakingtree.in/public/80xy68b9z8na8zwlx9wwuvu4i/blogs)

Giving up – weakness or strength?

“Give up smoking…” I told my friend and he declared “Smoking is my weakness…!”

“Try to quit…” is all I said then.

“Quitting is for losers…” he uttered with a smile and I replied, “Listen friend, smoking will ruin your health… you have to get rid of this habit…”

“I have health insurance…” he proudly remarked. I shook my head and said, “Money will not replace your impending suffering, friend…”

“Don’t worry about me… and I will not call on you…” he threw it at me.

I finally commented “Come on dear… you think you are smoking it out but don’t you think the smoke is taking it out on you…?”

He didn’t stay but turned around to tell me, “I need to get out now and buy a new pack…”

I could only say, “I am not giving up on you, my dear friend…!”

Next day I met him again and helplessly he started talking, “See… even if I want to quit smoking, I can’t. It’s become an addiction… what to do now…?”

“You could try lessening this addiction slowly and get rid of it gradually say for instance, smoke just two cigarettes a day or you could…” I would have suggested more steps but he stopped me abruptly.

“Easy for you to say, isn’t it…?” he questioned me raising his eyebrows.

“Yes…” I agreed, “it’s easy for me to say and tough for you to act upon it… take it as a challenge…”

He stood quiet and so I added, “The test is to see how strong is your resolve compared to your weakness…”

“That is exactly why I don’t want to make any resolutions…” he finally spoke and after a pause continued “…because I will break it sooner or later…”

“Atleast make a resolve and then put efforts to make it work…” I encouraged him.

“…And look foolish when it doesn’t work… isn’t it…?” his tone became negative.

“My friend, please stay positive… otherwise you will end up dead in this vicious cycle… Believe in yourself… believe you have the power to give up this addiction… I will support you all the way… take the first step…” I said showing my confidence in him.

He looked around for several seconds and suddenly in a fully awakened state asked me, “Who are you by the way…?”

I anticipated this question and told him, “I am your conscience… I represent divinity… I will continue to be the voice you will always hear… whether you listen to me or not, whether you follow my guidance or not, whether you act upon my words or not, it is your choice…!”

Note 1 – ‘Giving up’ is not always a sign of weakness and ‘quitting’ doesn’t always indicate failure.

Note 2 – ‘Smoking is Injurious to Health’ – Don’t take it as only a Statutory Warning!

(Taken from my blog on The Speaking Tree – http://www.speakingtree.in/80xy68b9z8na8zwlx9wwuvu4i/blog/Giving-up-weakness-or-strength)

Dare to Draw the Line!

‘Only those who will risk going too far can possibly find out how far one can go’ – T. S. Eliot

“WOULD YOU BE BETTER SAFE THAN BE SORRY OR WOULD YOU BETTER TAKE YOUR CHANCES…?”

‘A ship is safe in harbour but that’s not what ships are made for…!’ – John A Shedd

Let’s straight away get into the points –

If we don’t want to be outside at public places during weekends because we fear bombs blasting or terrorist strikes, are we ensuring our safety or have we lost our freedom?

Just because I am a woman, do I have to rush back home when the clock shows 22.30 hours so that I reach the safe haven of my home?

Did you feel your parents overprotected you because of which you never really ventured ‘out in the world’ freely? By the way, are you overprotecting your kids in anyway that they feel ‘safety is the best policy’ in their life?

You might think gambling is a risk, adventure sports is a risk, travelling on a long distance flight (or shorter flight) is a risk… Now, think again… Do you wear your seatbelts while driving the car? Do you put on your helmet while riding your bike? Do you follow the traffic rules (not just signals) or is it a risk worth taking by breaking the rules?

I know the deal with non-vegetarian and vegetarian food & lifestyles… the question is would you risk your health by over-stretching your body & mind leading to stressful conditions, sheltering negative thoughts, giving in to vicious addictions & endlessly worrying about future?

We don’t have to choose all of the risky rides of the world and be in total awe while taking chances…

‘The safest risk is the one you didn’t take’ – Anonymous

‘Never be afraid to try something new. Remember amateurs built the ark; professionals built Titanic’ – Anonymous

We don’t have to choose all of the safety pins and be over-cautious each and every moment…

‘For safety is not a gadget but a state of mind’ – Eleanor Everet

‘You might as well fall flat on your face as lean over too far backward’ – James Thurber

Remember even safety pins can prick and sometimes taking risk is the safest choice you’ve got!

What we need to do is be in a positively active mode, raise awareness, get knowledgeable and learn to maintain composure within and on the outside. We must know when ‘taking risk’ is relevant and when ‘safety principles’ are applicable in our lives… We should learn to balance our lives by realizing when to switch on/off our attack mode and defend mode.

 There is a thin line between safety and risk and crossing it over can be a question of –

  • Life and Death
  • Profit and Loss
  • Success and Failure
  •  Love and Hate
  • Certainty and Unexpected                                                                                    
  • Comfort and Pain
  • Discovery and Mediocrity
  • Adventure and Boredom
  • Mistakes and Experience
  • Sense and Impulse
  • Wisdom and Foolishness
  • You and Me!

All we need to do is determine where we should draw that line…! That’s because what I perceive as to be a risky situation need not seem risky to you in anyways. Similarly, what you consider as a safe choices need not be the one I will choose necessarily. Ultimately, it is all about knowing Self and knowing WHERE and WHEN to DRAW the LINE!

“Two roads diverged in a wood, and I… I took the one less travelled by, and that has made all the difference.” – Robert Frost

(Original link to my blog – http://www.speakingtree.in/80xy68b9z8na8zwlx9wwuvu4i/blog/Dare-to-Draw-the-Line-atleast)

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