andModern times are all the more stressful to each one of us… doesn’t matter your age, gender, personality style, occupation or even your patience levels. In fact, stress exactly does that… tests your nerves!

It is not because we don’t have time that we get stressed, it is because we are stressed that we don’t find the time to do the things we need to, we want to!

So, when you are down with stress, trust yourself to give you the boost and uplift soon enough. If you wait long or think it will pass, you may run the risk of entering into a depressive state.

Here are five simple and instant self-motivators below:

1. Sing your favourite songs, or at least hum them. If your voice is not good enough, it is alright. Don’t judge your singing abilities. You are not singing to win any competition. You are singing to cheer up yourself.

2. You can do better by listening to your favourite songs. Store some good songs in your mobile and while you play them, make sure to sing along. Keep a check on your environment and see that you are not disturbing others in the process.

3. Look at funny side of yourself. It doesn’t imply that you need to act funny or keep laughing at yourself neither you should be alarmed if your sense of humour is low. All you need to do is smile at your silly follies and be at ease with yourself.

4. Observe a green tree, plant or a leaf. It could be a potted plant at the corner of your office or one outside the window or your computer wallpaper. Wherever it is, spot a green and lighten your mood. Green is a healing colour, so it has its psychological effects.

5. Make a ‘to do’ list for the evening/day/week/month. And keep a check on what you have achieved so far in the  day/week/month. This will help you to know where you stand now and put you back on the track to where you should be. Most of all, it puts you in the action mode.

If these are not applicable to you, think again… try it again. Still, if it’s not working, I am sure you will find your own instant motivators. Motivation is always available. Open yourself to it. Keep away the stressors. Positive thoughts lead to positive actions which in turn leads to positive outcomes.

(This blog is also on Speaking Tree, my blog site: http://www.speakingtree.in/public/shilpa.kamath/blog)

Manimals

Evolution may have taken its own course and made a man out of a chimpanzee…

And looking at the present situation, is it that man is now evolving into a machine (think – robots, clones, technological/digital presence of humans)? However, it doesn’t matter how far technology can go, how quick communications reach, how brilliant are the ideas that generate in the fascinating human mind… will it erase out our origin? Will it remove the basic instincts? Can the fundamental roots be eliminated?

 

Based on Abraham Maslow’s hierarchical needs theory which again is subject to criticisms, is it that humans are superior because they don’t just have basic needs like the animals? The ‘Man’ is much more curious, imaginative, inventive, adaptive, communicative, logical, creative… that he has the world at his feet. Courtesy to the creation of his brains and his right to question and his ability to get answers… Wow!

 

Sadly, the ‘Man’ is also greedier, selfish, over-powering, dominant, reckless, manipulative, unpredictable… that he has filled the world with sins, crimes, poverty, fear, agony, depression that negativity could be a synonym for mankind. Being wild in anger and being spiteful is not what animals are… Animals are born wild… We are supposed to be civilized… Animals get along with the nature and obey nature’s rules… We are supposed to protect nature but we create our own rules and disobey them as well… Animals are animals but Man – Can he become an animal again? Can he remain totally wild and be unaware about the consequences of his misdeeds? Can he be what he’s supposed to be… a human being… an emotional, intelligent and spiritual being?? It is said being born as a human is considered as a privilege and the ultimate level in the cycle of life… But, can the human rise above this level? If yes, to what extent… and to reach where…?

The man has discovered the ‘God particle’ and believes to find out the secrets of the universe and how it came into existence. The man might believe ‘God’ is simply imaginary.

If ‘we’ the civilized beings are superior enough to run this world and the universe, why is it so difficult to:

  • forgive that guy/girl who broke your heart
  • let go of the manipulations, fraud and evil
  • empathize with your neighbor’s loss
  • sort out the differences with your spouse

We claim to have conquered this world and the universe but we have not yet conquered self! We are still MANIMALS!

What’s on your T-shirt?

Here’s a collection of T-shirt lines that can enhance your image [or spoil it]! You may have come across some of these while the rest should be really unique!

On the T-shirt (front):-

  1. Hell does not want me N I don’t want to be in heaven!
  2. Recession affects me also… I borrowed this one!
  3. I’m available… Conditions apply!
  4. I’m not totally useless… U can use me as a bad example.
  5. Take my advice… I am not using it anyways…!
  6. Take me… I’m easily recharged and affordable!
  7. As I said before, I do not REPEAT myself!
  8. At the end of the money, I have always some month left!!
  9. I started out with Nuthin… I still have most of it!
  10. My imaginary friend thinks you have mental problems…!
  11. Boredom is a syndrome I get and tend to pass it on!
  12. Don’t come close… I spread!
  13. Come closer… (in big text) U have to anyways, to read this! (written in small text)
  14. What’s my problem? YOU!
  15. Oops! You did it again!
  16. I am Ok… don’t know about you!
  17. I am a perfect idiot atleast! (with a smiley)
  18. My ATM has a mobile number! But, Dad rarely picks my call.
  19. Marriages are made in heaven… who’s spreading this?
  20. My pet name is U FOOL!
  21. You get out of my way or I will… (with a big smiley)
  22. Hello! What’s your size?
  23. Lucky you… You would have had me!
  24. Money is not my choice… Lend me some!
  25. I am too clever for U, so don’t bother me!
  26. Bored with life? Try me!
  27. I am committed… I committed suicide once!
  28. Gravity is a state of mind… You do fall when you are OFF!
  29. I am what you were looking for!
  30. If I am nobody, I am perfect.
  31. AM I YOUR TYPE? I BELONG TO ANY TYPE.
  32. What makes you think I am insane? Tell  me soon or I will take off my clothes & dance naked.
  33. I don’t like girls… I don’t like boys also!
  34. I love myself… & I can’t take it anymore!
  35. Hey, we are living! There are no aliens!
  36. Someday I will get lucky… till then I will wait!
  37. How gay is me? I dated myself!
  38. Hey gorgeous! (in big text) I say that to myself! (in small text)
  39. I wish I was invisible… but no one sees me anyways!
  40. You’ve got Problems? I will give one too…! (with a devilish kind of smiley)
  41. You are an idiot… me too… lets party.
  42. What is your problem? Girlfriend or no girlfriend?
  43. Have fun… it is easy!
  44. I am smart, sexy & you need to pay the bill.
  45. I am single, available and lovable!
  46. What is your problem, you inscrutable, disgusting, insensitive beast!
  47. Nothing tastes like ice-cream… & I am nothing!!
  48. Sure, let’s make it happen tonite!
  49. I never said never in my life! That’s never my policy & never my line!
  50. Who said earth is round? We are all dizzy, u know?
  51. I am totally worth your Money!
  52. I don’t drink & drive… if it’s my car!!
  53. People are funny… they take this personally!
  54. Note: I could be sleep-walking!
  55. Dare to hate me! 
  56. Reality is an illusion caused by alcohol deficiency (with a half-empty beer glass picture).
  57. Tomorrow is a Future… Live now.
  58. Death is an experience… I died once!
  59. Alright, I am sorry!! UNF**K YOU!
  60. If I was a geek I would have done nothing to impress U!
  61. I am a MESS! (Mighty Enormous Super Size)
  62. I work hard, day & night to get lazy!
  63. I am bad, mad & sad… not necessarily in the same order.
  64. I am Lost! Find me!
  65. Am I your lucky sign!
  66. I took over Hell! Wanna come?
  67. Rule No. 1 – I have no rules!
  68. I don’t do married!
  69. Who cares for a, e, o… let’s focus on i and u…
  70. Forget it… Forget you read this!

Dare to Draw the Line!

‘Only those who will risk going too far can possibly find out how far one can go’ – T. S. Eliot

“WOULD YOU BE BETTER SAFE THAN BE SORRY OR WOULD YOU BETTER TAKE YOUR CHANCES…?”

‘A ship is safe in harbour but that’s not what ships are made for…!’ – John A Shedd

Let’s straight away get into the points –

If we don’t want to be outside at public places during weekends because we fear bombs blasting or terrorist strikes, are we ensuring our safety or have we lost our freedom?

Just because I am a woman, do I have to rush back home when the clock shows 22.30 hours so that I reach the safe haven of my home?

Did you feel your parents overprotected you because of which you never really ventured ‘out in the world’ freely? By the way, are you overprotecting your kids in anyway that they feel ‘safety is the best policy’ in their life?

You might think gambling is a risk, adventure sports is a risk, travelling on a long distance flight (or shorter flight) is a risk… Now, think again… Do you wear your seatbelts while driving the car? Do you put on your helmet while riding your bike? Do you follow the traffic rules (not just signals) or is it a risk worth taking by breaking the rules?

I know the deal with non-vegetarian and vegetarian food & lifestyles… the question is would you risk your health by over-stretching your body & mind leading to stressful conditions, sheltering negative thoughts, giving in to vicious addictions & endlessly worrying about future?

We don’t have to choose all of the risky rides of the world and be in total awe while taking chances…

‘The safest risk is the one you didn’t take’ – Anonymous

‘Never be afraid to try something new. Remember amateurs built the ark; professionals built Titanic’ – Anonymous

We don’t have to choose all of the safety pins and be over-cautious each and every moment…

‘For safety is not a gadget but a state of mind’ – Eleanor Everet

‘You might as well fall flat on your face as lean over too far backward’ – James Thurber

Remember even safety pins can prick and sometimes taking risk is the safest choice you’ve got!

What we need to do is be in a positively active mode, raise awareness, get knowledgeable and learn to maintain composure within and on the outside. We must know when ‘taking risk’ is relevant and when ‘safety principles’ are applicable in our lives… We should learn to balance our lives by realizing when to switch on/off our attack mode and defend mode.

 There is a thin line between safety and risk and crossing it over can be a question of –

  • Life and Death
  • Profit and Loss
  • Success and Failure
  •  Love and Hate
  • Certainty and Unexpected                                                                                    
  • Comfort and Pain
  • Discovery and Mediocrity
  • Adventure and Boredom
  • Mistakes and Experience
  • Sense and Impulse
  • Wisdom and Foolishness
  • You and Me!

All we need to do is determine where we should draw that line…! That’s because what I perceive as to be a risky situation need not seem risky to you in anyways. Similarly, what you consider as a safe choices need not be the one I will choose necessarily. Ultimately, it is all about knowing Self and knowing WHERE and WHEN to DRAW the LINE!

“Two roads diverged in a wood, and I… I took the one less travelled by, and that has made all the difference.” – Robert Frost

(Original link to my blog – http://www.speakingtree.in/80xy68b9z8na8zwlx9wwuvu4i/blog/Dare-to-Draw-the-Line-atleast)

Get a ‘Break’

Everybody needs break… a break from the daily routines, a break from the demands of a relationship, a break from busy work schedules, a break from traffic blocks… it can go on, isn’t it? The key agenda here is ‘the need to break free…’ Everybody has a right to break free… we only need to determine ‘break free’ from what, whom, why, when, where and how. Yes, those 5W & 1 H questions has to be answered otherwise your breaking free isn’t going to yield the desired outcome. Of course, you need to decide on the outcome also… right? So, you need to know in advance whether your breaking free should bring you a fresh start, renewed & refreshed energy, new motivation to deal with the situations or simply cutting loose & coming back at it again & resume on-going efforts.

Should somebody ask “Define ‘break’ by the way”… This is a tricky one… Is it one minute, five minutes, one day, one week, two weeks or a month or maybe even a year? You will be surprised to know that we deal with ‘break’ throughout our life without realizing we are engaged in so many ‘breaking’ activities like –

We are either breaking the rules of an ineffective system OR unintentionally broken the law OR we are desperately trying to break the ice with certain individuals who are hard enough to fathom OR we make and break promises OR we have expectations that our favourite sportsperson/team will break the previous records OR it could be as simple as breaking open a tight jar in the kitchen.

We are waiting for a break-even point in our careers OR thinking hard upon the decision to break-up from our girl/boy friend OR we just look forward for the day to break and start off with a solid breakfast (You must be aware why breakfast is called so… after a good night’s sleep and when body is at rest, we break that fast with morning breakfast which is essential for the body and no one should miss ideally)

We are also scared if the other person initiates a break-up when we don’t want to and what if we break into tears then? What if we have no choice but to break another’s heart or our own? What if we were directly or indirectly involved in breaking apart another’s relationship? What if our intention was to break the bad news gently but our voice broke thinking about the possible breakdown that the other person may go through? What if we broke some intricate relationship code and it pierced through another’s heart like a broken arrow that’s still sharp enough to hurt?

Looks like we are either getting into a break or getting away from a break, isn’t it?  But, everybody is into it or out of it in different contexts like for instance –

A struggling film actor can say, “This movie will be my big break…”

A news channel anchor can say, “Sorry for interruption… there’s a breaking news…”

An ambitious tennis player can repeatedly say, “And, that’s the break point I needed…”

A miser worried about growing old can say, “There’s no way I will die broke…”

A calculative thief can say, “I will plan to break-in that house on the night after Christmas…”

A mischievous student may not say, “They made me break camp…”

A cautious property buyer may say, “Show me the break-up costs…”

When you go for lunch, its ‘lunch-break’

When you are not found at your work desk, it’s likely you are having, ‘coffee break’ or ‘loo break!’

When you are at the movie interval stage, its ‘movie break’

When you are watching a series of ads in the middle of your favorite TV program, its ‘commercial break’

THAT should be enough of breaks… this one’s a breaking blog with not so much of a breakthrough I guess!

Hope you got yourself a relaxing break…! Sometimes, there is a need to breakout from all the breaks of life… Get going…!

Message is Break free…!

Aside

Is Grass greener on the other side? Could be!

In life, we often move along with certain notions and pre-determined mindsets. Let me test some of them here with a slight touch of logical humour –

  1. We know life isn’t a bed of roses and we also know roses have thorns but anyone thought how’s it for the thorns? It could easily be a bed of roses for them!
  2. If you can’t convince them confuse them. But, if you can’t confuse them shouldn’t you confirm it once and for all? Do it.
  3. Early bird gets the worm but worms couldn’t be sleeping or is it that they got up first? So, getting up early in the morning is a good habit but not if you are a worm!
  4. Only common people can say ‘common sense isn’t common’ and they know it better, no doubt! So, could I proclaim “‘Common Sense’ belongs to the extraordinary…”? I think I can!
  5. They say ‘forget the past… live in the present’ & they also say ‘learn from your mistakes’ but how will I know what mistakes I made if I have to forget the past? It’s apt to say let’s not forget our mistakes.
  6. ‘Never say never’ – this could be the most unintelligent phrase in English… after all, you just had to say it twice to convey the meaning! Besides, ‘never’ is a negative word even if used in positive context.
  7. A bird in the hand is worth two in the bush but what’s wrong with having more than two especially when multitasking is the buzz word today? Just need to balance it right.
  8. Whoever said, ‘money can’t buy everything’ must have had lots of money or lots of everything! But it can also mean ‘everything isn’t for sale’ and ‘money is cheap’.
  9. ‘A rose by any other name would smell as sweet’ quoted William Shakespeare but interesting question is how do we know what we are referring to when we talk about the sweetness? And no way, names are just for namesake!
  10. Row, row, row your boat, gently down the stream. Merrily, merrily, merrily, merrily, life is but a dream. This is a popular nursery rhyme and the idea is to ‘row our life boats quietly and happily while living the dream!’ The question is figuring out whether it is really a stream, river or an ocean where we are rowing our boats.

‘Life is a mystery’ so, don’t worry if you get lost. We all are…!

Keep going though in search of your path and when you are sure you have found your path, keep rowing more!

SPACE – 2

Continuing into Space-2…

(Do refer my previous blog on Space – http://know2be.wordpress.com/2011/06/23/space/‎)

Remember the time when you spent considerable time wondering whether your car would fit into the available parking SPACE…? At that point of time, the space was more important to you than your car, isn’t it? It should be… after all, car is supposed to carry you… you hardly can carry your car wherever you go! 

Then what about that ‘to-let’ space a building owner advertises and which he/she would like someone to occupy? Isn’t the space that’s offered a valuable proposition then? And it only gets more value with the status of the location… is it in the city centre? Is it near the bus terminal? Is it the most happening location? So, the space you own fetches you revenues in such case.

Even human anatomy is such where the creator has given ample scope for space… observe yourself… isn’t there space between your eyes, ears, fingers, toes… don’t forget the space between your any two hair… Of course, in some persons, the space between their eyes could be more or less but important thing to note is ‘there is space’. Now, that’s just external body…! What about the bone structure, nerves, tissues, vital organs… are they all clamped up inside? No way, they are appropriately spaced… heart is in its own space while kidneys are located in its own significant space. In rare cases where ‘space’ application has somehow gone wrong, we have conjoint twins or a dislocation of certain body parts.

Just like how air occupies the space inside a balloon or water occupies the space of the container it’s poured in, haven’t we occupied earth’s space? We have constructed our bridges, flyovers, tunnels, subways and taken away the space or should I say, we have made ‘a space’ to suit our conveniences?   

Whatever it is, I would like to conclude by saying, ‘Space is a wonderful entity’.  We think – we create space, we need space, we own space, we allot space, we invade space or we occupy space… the truth is we are living and moving in SPACE.  

Thank you WordPress for this Space.

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